pia lashay.: Being a Mom

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Wednesday, March 18, 2020

How are we staying busy during the pandemic?

Coronavirus, we all know about it at this point in time. Schools are closed, jobs are closing and we are all being refined to our homes. *The Foreign Exchange Market is still open.* I wanted to share a few ideas for Parent(s) like myself who are at home and want to get a little creative with their time...

BUY PAINT. Paint a picture, paint a box, paint sticks, paint clay...
PLANT SEEDS. I got my family some pots, dirt and seeds for basil, cilantro, mint and peppers.
BOARD GAMES. My kids are 3 & under so I got Hungry Hungry Hippos & Let's Go Fishing.
FOCUS ON SCHOOL, still. Because my kid is in preschool there's no E-learning or packets being sent home. We are still working on those writing skills, utilizing puzzles and practicing counting.
COOK & BAKE! I made sure to buy sprinkles and icing to spark up baking sessions. I've also made sure to add home made pizzas, muffins and cornbreads and other things for the kids to be hands on. If you have older kids get them stir Frys they just can't mess up.
CHORES! This is a great time to introduce younger kids to chores. Something they need to "clean" every day without being asked.
WORKOUT. We know we love the gym, mommy's... but now is a great time to attempt to workout with your kids. Get them to STOP climbing on you and actually participate. Breathe through the frustrations of not being able to do more than 4 sit ups in a row cause baby girl is crawling on your legs and try to get kiddos to do what you do.
Clean your car AT HOME. Plug that vacuum in and scrub those doors. It's the perfect time to get squeaky clean. The kids will love utilizing the vacuum. Have them put all the big stuff in a bag, vacuum the floors and wipe their own windows.

Saturday, September 15, 2018

The Hurtful Truth: Being without my Son for a MONTH

I can't believe I agreed to this. Three (no, four) entire weeks without my son, my two year old. The entire September. I try to be "strong" and I can't help but constantly wonder how other women do it? Send your baby away for the summer, or split custody in a long period ratio. When I'm saying this is hard for me, I'm not looking for applause or praise... I'm actually looking for help (LOL) coping methods and people who would like to interact with me to show me what its like to be KiD fReE. ahaha I know plenty of women who split "custody" with the other parent, but it's usually more like "Hey you get Dooney Tuesday and Wednesdays" or "You pick him up after school everyday and keep him for a couple hours"...hahaha I'm definitely the Mom giving you a few hours.

Lately, I've been asking Dash's Dad to move back to Indiana. He currently lives all the way in Alabama - the bottom of Alabama to be factual - a nine hour drive.

QUICK INTERRUPTION: Dash being gone has actually sparked me to blog again, a coping method. So hey, there is one positive.

His Father moved to Indiana for maybe six months before his own Father fell ill and he needed to return to Alabama. I'm a pretty understanding gal, and I actually didn't expect for him to stay that long, lol. I do wish he would return though. Not for the sake of just my sanity... cause every time Dash is away I realize how much I don't need a break. Thank you very much. Okay, maybe one day out the weekend or at least while Mommy works out... or just to have someone to depend on with help with picking and dropping him off from daycare/sports/activities.

I want Dash to have that constant interaction with his Father. Not that when it's good for me or him. Just constantly knowing that's my dad. And you know people want me to point the finger at him for not living in Indiana or closer to his son. But I honestly don't care. Kinda.

I feel like the decisions he make ABSOLUTELY effect Dash. Every single last one... from him choosing to eat expensively or buy himself something nice. (Not saying that's what he does, just examples.) But for me, at the end of the day, he has to ultimately deal with God. I always encourage women (and men) to not get frustrated or mad with your child's parent, no matter how dumb you think they maybe being or how non-understanding they are. Simply pray. Cause what can you honestly do? *Break the windows out his car* And I'm glad I've had that mindset from the beginning. I mean of course, sometimes I state my opinion but never in attempts to argue with his Father... but really you CAN NOT change anyone's mentality just hope for the best!

As you can see, this whole thing (it's officially week two) is hitting me hard. Watching videos of Dash at Chuck'E Cheese and the pool, Mama is getting sappy. I've actually cried on the phone with my dumpling the last two days because I miss him and I don't want him to be mad at me for my decisions. So as I'm writing this, I'm putting on my big mama undies and going to turn this trip into something more, some how. I have to get a little more out of this trip JUST BECAUSE I'm being away from my baby way too long.

Least it's for a good reason though.

Xox, Pia Ming

Sunday, September 09, 2018

Just so Dash'ing!

Being a Mom is the most wonderful, adventurous thing any woman can go through! You learn so much more when looking not just through your eyes, but your child's eyes as well.

When I was pregnant with my child it was like so much was placed on social media to try to make me feel bad about being a mother, unmarried, sorta kind young... people just wanted me to think my life was over.

My life wasn't over. I just started a whole new chapter book, that moves much quicker with a child. It's like my whole life has been one book, but now that I have a child EVERY year is a new book.

Although people wanted me to be mad, jealous and hate my life. I didn't. All I could see was the beauty in his eyes and in his future.

I am so happy and blessed to be Dash's Mommy! To all Mommy's out there, never let anyone try to make you feel bad about your decision to take care of your child fully and rightfully.

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

BEING A MOM: Finding yourself, loving yourself...

I love to write. It's just something I like to do. Like boys like to play sports and girls like make-up. I, I liketo write. I like fashion and I enjoy working out. I'm a Mom, AND that brings me the biggest joy. Becoming a Mom a year ago... I knew that I was goning to invest every second into my son. Workout? Why waste that energy when I can play with my son? Write? When I can read books with my son? And fashion? No such thing, how about sweats and leggings so I can be comfortable when hanging out with my son!!!

I knew... I really knew, and heard thousands of times. "You have to take care of yourself to be happy and to be a good Mom." But how could I take care of myself (hair, nails, working out, personal interest?) if I invested every second into my son...

Well when my son turned 10 months, I took a leap of faith and enrolled into three online summer courses, that was the start... something for me? Just because I wanted to? Wow, Pia... good move.

I brought me a gym membership when my son was three months, but I used it about five times a month. I was motivated but rarely had the energy and trust issues with others watching him...
Now I'm using it 3-5 times a week...

My biggest issue? Not wanting to leave my son with just anybody. He's allowed to be left alone with my Mom, Dad, Sister and his Dad (who moved to Indiana July 5th)... his Dad moving here has been a blessing for all three of us.

I wrote all that, as a simplistic reminder to all Moms, love on yourself.

Buy yourself that nail polish that cost too much, get you a new shirt, brush your hair, put the coffee down and opt for a run outside for a burst of energy.

#MommyRealness

Sunday, July 09, 2017

My Summer To Do List

plane ticket to Indianapolis from Houston
FINISH ALL 3 CLASSES WITH AN A
Student Loans Pay Off
Edge Adventure with Family
Breakout with Family
Indians Game - Paw Patrol Night
plane ticket to & from Vegas
Zombie Apocalypse with Babe
Wine Tasting
Super Fun Run
Bartending Lessons

Friday, February 05, 2016

Just to have ambition is a blessing!

Wow! God is amazing isn't he?

I have been around a couple people lately who, hey, are not doing too much with them self and are content with living off government assistance. No job (unless catering to a man who isn't doing anything for you counts), food stamps (yelling I'm hunger two weeks before they arrive again), no transportation and home paid for by the system.

Now, I understand needing a crutch for a couple to several months because "you just never know" but the situations I have been witnessing (especially now that I am becoming an adult Mother) are pretty, well, flat out sickening to me! Now my eyes are speaking from watching a sixty year old do this as well as a twenty something AND the in between!

Moral of story? Never get content with someone else taking care of you, hoping someone takes care of you... Always live through your own ambition, passion and dreams. As women, by nature, we crave to play the role of man takes care of me. Come on folks, you see it in your bible! And that is perfectly fine. But the government is NOT your man! So until than grow yourself as a woMAN. Hubby will arrive when God plans on it, just follow his plan as best as you can.

Xoxo Pia 💋